How Do You Reignite the Romance in Your Marriage?

What do you do when your marriage has gone sour? How do you rekindle that first love?   You do what Jesus told the church at Ephesus when the church had lost its first love.   Revelation 2:4-5 “You have forsaken your first love. Remember the height from which you have fallen? Repent and do the things you did at first.”  This says three things:  remember, repent, do.”   The same three things apply to marriage. First you remember the good times. You relive the experiences, the happy feelings when you first fell in love.   Then you Repent. This means to deliberately change your attitude towards your mate.  You choose to turn it around. You choose to act in a loving way. You choose to act in a romantic way even if you don’t feel romantic.   Then it says to Do the things you did at first. Act the same way towards your mate that you used to. What you did to fall in love, you must continue to do to stay in love. And if you act romantic you will begin to feel romantic. Not vice versa. You act your way into a feeling you don’t feel your way into an action.   When you first fell in love you did five things. So do them again.
  1. Focus on them, give them prominence or make them the priority.
  1. Encourage them, give them approval or recognize their good qualities.

1 Thessalonians 5:11 (NLT)  “So encourage each other and build each other up, just as you are already doing.”

  1. Give them affection. And not only that which leads to the bedroom. Who cares if you weren’t raised that way? Change anyway.
  1. Give them some fun. Don’t be so boring. Be adventurous with your spouse.

And finally… 

  1. Make an effort to live in spiritual oneness by putting Christ first place in both of your lives. And begin praying for one another, together.

If you’ll do those five things, the romance will come back. By the way, is Christ first place in your life? Have you asked him to forgive you? Do you have your trust in Christ for your salvation?  Because that should be your first step. Get your life right with God first then the spark will be on the way. 


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The Ten Commandments and Salvation

“God’s Law, the Ten Commandments, was the essence of the gospel proclamation of Wesley, Moody, Whitfield and Jonathan Edwards, all these men that God so greatly used. They said that if you don’t use the Law, you’ll almost certainly lead to false conversions. 

“This great tragedy has happened, simply because we haven’t followed the Biblical example of sharing the law with the unsaved. We are to preach law to the proud and grace to the humble. Whenever Jesus approached a proud arrogant self-righteous person with the gospel, He gave law before grace, always.  With the law He broke the hard heart, and with the gospel He healed the broken heart.” The moral law shows them they are sinners and God’s grace shows them how they can be saved.

That is why the scriptures say, The law is a schoolmaster that leads us to Christ (Gal 3:24) and once we are led to Christ His Goodness leads us to repentance (Rom 2:4) They both work together. First you need the Law with those who think they are good enough to make it on their own merits but then God’s goodness can lead them to repentance.

Why did He Jesus share the moral law? “Because He always did those things that were pleasing in the Father’s sight, He did those things that God approved of. And our Father God resists the proud and gives grace to the humble. We see this so often in Scripture, the rich young ruler, the arrogant self-righteous lawyer that stood up and tempted Jesus. Both times, Jesus gave the Law. He gave the Ten Commandments. But when they came to Him with humility, with a knowledge of sin by the Law, that is the Godly Jews, he gave them grace.”

Once the law humbles you God can give you grace and save you as you repent, trust and follow Him.

“Paul says in Romans 7:7, “I had not known sin except by the Law.” Charles Finney said, “Evermore the Law must prepare the way for the gospel.” And Finney had an 80% retention rate. He said, “Evermore the Law must prepare the way for the gospel. To overlook this in instructing souls is almost certain to result in false hope, the introduction of a false standard of Christian experience, and to fill the church with false converts.” 

I hope today you will come to Christ knowing you are a sinner because you know you have broken the moral law. Yet, He came to save sinners, that’s all of us. Won’t you humble yourself today and say God please forgive me of my sins I know I am a sinner and in need of your grace. Make me into the kind of person you want me to be. A loving follower of Jesus. I trust you to be my Savior today. Amen

He will then save you from a certain eternal destiny in hell and give you everlasting life with Him. 

Attribution to words in quotes: True and False Conversion by Ray Comfort https://www.livingwaters.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/01/TrueAndFalseConversion.pdf True and False Conversion is non-copyrighted. www.LivingWaters.com – Living Waters Publications, P.O. Box 1172, Bellflower, CA 90706 


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Never Vilify Your Friends and Neighbors

Three nearby churches on a hot summer day had their windows open and were trying to outsing the others. The Baptists were singing, “Will There Be Any Stars in My Crown?” Then the Presbyterians began singing, “No, Not One. No, Not One.” And the Methodists began singing “Oh, That Will Be Glory for Me.”

All humor aside it’s not fun to be put down or criticized.  When we are criticized and maligned our natural inclination is to do the same. As Christians, however, we are instructed to do the opposite. When provoked, we are not supposed to talk about someone behind their back. Instead, we are to bless them.

The word “bless” literally means “speak well of”. We ask God to bless people, but did you know that you yourself can actually bless a person? You can bless people by the way you talk about them. When someone ridicules you and puts you down, speak well of them. George Washington Carver said, “I will never allow another man to belittle my soul by making me hate him.”  

While we can’t control what others say about us, we can control what we say in response. That’s what God will hold us accountable for. When somebody criticizes another, the other person shouldn’t go around bad-mouthing him. Instead, bless him. Find something you can approve of in their life. To find a reason to criticize is easy–anyone can do that. To find a reason to affirm can require a bit more creativity.

James 4:11a NIV – “Brothers and sisters, do not slander one another. Anyone who speaks against a brother or sister or judges them speaks against the law (God’s Moral law) and judges it.”

If you are a follower of Christ, you don’t have any business judging one another. There is a higher walk in this life: bless don’t curse. For what a man sows that shall he also reap.


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Thank God for President Trump

I am grateful for the president God gave us. Our president knows how to get things done! In seven quarters the results to our economy has been amazing. He also honors Israel and honors God by joining with God-fearing men in Bible study and prayer.
 
I believe the President understands family is healthiest when prioritized over others, with God being the center of it all. Even though we do need to care for our neighbors, our family should always come first. This is what President Trump is trying to do, putting the American family first.
 
The greatest problem in our nation is not who is in the White House; instead, it is the breakdown of the family in our own house and our abandonment of Godly values. The spiritual force that owns the family owns the future and the journey of a nation always mimics the journey of it’s families’ values.
 
Christian parents: we cannot afford to leave the spiritual well-being of our children to just anyone. The institutions of the world try to tell us how we should think and act, to conform to their ways. But we must follow God’s ways.
 
Joshua, in the Bible, knew some would not follow after God’s ways. He encouraged those who did believe to stand up for what was right. Joshua addressed two groups, those who wanted to serve the true God of the Bible and those who did not.
 
Joshua 24:15 NKJV  “… if it seems evil to you to serve the LORD, choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, … as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD.” We live in a country of religious freedom. We can choose to serve whom or what we want. As for me and my family we choose to stand up for Christ and we will serve the Lord.
 

It is my prayer that God would have His way but we also have a part to play.  Please, get out and vote your heartfelt values this November. And remember to keep God in the equation and be thankful for how God has blessed us!


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How is Your Walk With God?

Years ago before seat belts you could always tell what kind of relationship a man had with his sweetie by how close she sat by him in the car.

How close are you sitting next to God on this journey called life?

There was a man named Enoch who was taken to heaven alive because he walked with God for 300 years. Enoch’s walk pleased God.

In order to please God you must first believe that He is personable and knowable. Because if you are not sure that He is knowable you cannot be sure that He can be walked with.

To walk with God means God is part of your decision making, thought processes, schedule, and your relationships. God wants us to include Him in all the steps of life.

If you only talk to Him when times get tough He is just an acquaintance you visit from time to time, not someone you go on a daily walk with.

But God wants a relationship with you. He doesn’t want visitation rights, he wants full custody of you.

In addition, our lives ought to be a public walk not just a private walk. It was public for Enoch and it should be for us. Why? Because God cares about everyone and he uses us in public to reach others for Him.

Now, you may not be used to walking with God but even if you make the effort to start, you will begin to pick up on what God is pleased about and what He is not.

Begin this journey by simply putting your faith and trust in the finished work of Jesus (His death and resurrection), confess your sins to God and simply follow Him by taking heed to what the Bible is saying to us as His people.

I will guarantee you this: if you choose to put God in every facet of your life and really walk with Him, it will be the best investment you will ever make.


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